As fellow moms, we have a great opportunity to encourage and come along side one other. We can learn from those who are farther down the road and we can support those who are just getting started. We forget all too quickly how it feels in each stage with our kids. But no matter which stage we find ourselves in, we can play an important role. From new moms to Grandmas, we can learn from and teach one another.
- Find someone who is ahead of you in the journey of motherhood. Be willing to ask for advice and help. Don’t try and be an island, we’re better together.
- Be willing to step into someone’s day-to-day and help them. Offer to hold the baby so mom can shower, or better yet, nap! Offer to run after the toddler who can’t sit still so mom can have some peace. Offer to carpool with the mom who has 3 kids in different activities. Offer to take the teenager out for coffee, re-enforcing the truth her mom is teaching her.
- Use caution with your words. While we are usually well meaning when we offer “wisdom”, it does not always come across that way. Remember our memory as moms is selective and sometimes biased. If you are a mom of older kids or a grandma, and you think your kids ‘never acted that way’,you might be remembering wrong. Even if you are right, most likely that isn’t the encouragement that mom needs to hear. Our words can either encourage or discourage, they are powerful.
There are days when I feel like a failure as a mom. I’m convinced I’m the only one having certain issues or problems. Almost always, however, when I open up and share what I’m going through, I find others who are experiencing the same thing, or who have gone through it already and can offer advice. This Mother’s Day, let’s work on looking for areas where we can build others up. Motherhood is a marathon that sometimes feels like a boxing match. Let’s be cheering on the sidelines and helping in the corner of the ring.