“One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up instead of all they have to gain”
Something you may or may not know about me is I do not like change. I thrive on having routine and structure. It is ironic, and a little funny, to think about all the moves I have made and how much each one has pushed me out of my comfort zone.
I have used the past few weeks as a season to rest and reset. It can be hard to rest, hard to allow yourself time to recharge and unwind. (Sometimes you resist it so much you have to get bronchitis just to be forced to take a break.) One reason it can be so hard to rest is it can almost feel like laziness, like you are being unproductive. But in reality it is important and vital to our well-being. I am finding as I take time to slow down, I am able to evaluate where my hope is anchored. I have time to take a look at my expectations and see if they are realistic. And I am able to let the Truth wash over me and remind me of God’s faithfulness.
As I take a step back and prepare myself for this new life, I am working on shifting my perspective. I have told people before there is a mourning period after a move, where you have to let your old life die. And it takes time. And it’s not fun. Right before our move I was reminded of 2 Corinthians 5:7 “For we walk by faith, not by sight”. The AMP version adds this, “living our lives in a manner consistent with our confident belief in God’s promises”. Although I’ve heard it many times before, it is taking a new meaning right now for me. It struck me that if I really believe in God and His promises, really believe that He has called us to this new life, then I have to walk by faith. And that means trusting in the fact that His plan is best.
I do believe there is purpose in all of this. So I’m working on embracing resting and resetting. I am using the slower pace to take time to write, to sit by a fire and read, and to enjoy LOTS of quality family time. Because even though I don’t have all the answers, I am confident in God and His goodness.
“Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters of our lives won’t have a title until much later on.”
Happy 2018! I feel like 2017 drop kicked me and I am just now figuring which way is up. There’s nothing quite like starting the new year in a new city, with a new job, a new school, and a new house (eventually, we’re living in temporary housing until them).
At the end of last year, I began praying about my word for the new year. I wanted a word that would encompass a theme or direction into which God was calling me. Last year my word was confidence. My hope was to grow more confident in God and more confident in myself. Looking back, I had many opportunities to grow that confidence. Some of the opportunities were through trials and others happened when people encouraged me and spoke truth into certain areas. I can now see how the building of that confidence was a stepping stone I needed in order to be ready for this big life transition. The more we trust God, the more confident we are in Him. Then it is easier to trust His plan for our lives and to step out in faith.
This year I have chosen the word EMBRACE. One of the definitions of embrace is to accept or support (a belief, theory, or change) willingly and enthusiastically. I want to embrace willingly the lessons God is going to teach me during this next season of my life (notice the emphasis on willingly). In order for that to happen, I need to uncross my emotional arms and have a soft heart for all He has in store. Sometimes I have a tendency to put up walls when I am in new, unknown situations.
So I want to embrace the relationships and community God has in store for me. Even though the thought of starting over and having to build friendships from the ground up overwhelms me, I know eventually it will feel more manageable and God will cause the right people to come alongside me, just like He always does. And when He does, I want my arms to be open to accept and welcome those relationships.
As we slowly begin to find a new normal, I am working on embracing temporary living and a simpler way of life. We are learning to navigate a new city and beginning to make it home. I know from experience it will be a process. A process that can be hard and sad and frustrating. But in the end, it will make us better than we were before.